Hey everyone. My name is Katrin, I’m 25 years old and I am currently still going to university to finish my Master’s Degree. I don’t want to share any more personal details for now. This blog has not been created to share the details of my life. It is about sharing the details of coping with a relationship/love addiction. This form of addiction often makes those concerned vulnerable and more likely to attract unavailable and narcisstic men who will eventually break their hearts. It has taken me a very long time to realize this behavioral pattern in me and it took one really painful episode to make me aware of the fact that I need to change my outlook or my life will go down the drain. Right now I’m in the middle of coping with this most painful episode of my life and this blog is intended to help me on my journey. I’ve read some really good books on codependency and I will take their insights as a starting point on my journey.
If anything I write about sounds familiar to you, or you want to share your opinions and experiences, please always feel free to leave a comment or to contact me. I would love to hear from you as it is always a good feeling to know that you are not alone with what you are going through. I often struggled because I thought I was the only one having to deal with this kind of problem. Reading more on the subject made me realize that there are hundreds of thousands of us.
Please also note that English is not my first language. I apologize in advance for any mistakes I will likely make in the course of writing this blog! Feel free to correct me if you spot any grave mistakes that just make you cringe 😉
Addicted to Love and Drama 
Hi Katrin? English isn’t my first language either but as long as you can comprehend it, write in it and pass the message, then to hell with the small small grammatical errors 😀 Thanks for the follow dear 🙂
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Thank you so much for your lovely comment 🙂 You are right: Who cares about small errors 😉 And thank you for following my blog as well 🙂
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Hi Katrin! Thank you for following my blog, “Diary of a Recovering Codependent” and thank you for taking the step to share with others who may be struggling with codependency! It has been quite a healing journey for me and I wish you much peace and happiness as you walk on your journey. Blessings! Terri
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Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging comment 🙂 And thank you also for following my blog. It has been quite a journey for me as well and I think I’ve already come a long way (also thanks to writing this blog). Being aware of the faults in my behavior, but also in the behavior of the guy I dated has been really helpful for me…that is why I also like to share my experiences with others 🙂
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I wanted to let you know that I enjoy you website and I have nominated you for the “Once a Victim, Now a Survivor Award”. Please see my post at http://darque.me/2015/07/13/once-a-victim-now-a-survivor-award-1/ for further details. I would love it if you can participate!
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Sweet Katrin,
Thank you so much for writing this blog and sharing your experiences and difficulties. I am new here and have only started reading blogs that deal with this topic because I am going through a difficult ordeal right now and would love to learn how others deal with the same issues.
I stumbled upon your blog after searching for insights on google and yours was the first site that drew me in.
Thank you !
I haven’t started blogging yet because I am still trying to process my thoughts and feelings and I’m not sure I know how to put them into words so eloquently but perhaps with time it’ll become clearer
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Sorry it took me so long to answer to your lovely message! First of all, thank you so much for all of your nice words. I feel flattered and I am glad to hear you were drawn in by my blog. It also took me a long time before I could start blogging, but it helped me tremendously in sorting through my feelings….and then the words just came flowing and I managed to let go of all the bitterness. I can thus only recommend it. I hope you are doing fine and will manage to get through your ordeal intact ☺I wish you all the best. Thank you again!
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hi Katrin, I have recently been through a somewhat break up and there are some signs that are very similar and true, reading ur post helped to understand it even better, but somehow everything still really bothers me a lot. wish I could share them with u and seek for some advice. it would be a great help.
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Hello Katrin!I hope you doing well.English my second language to and please forgive me if I misspelled.
I been reading your blog and thinking about anything you said about your ex belong to my ex.
Wow!!!Looks like narssissists have so much in common.
After I meet my ex I been thinking I won Jackpot.
Wonderful caring man absolutely not selfish.
Unfortunately anything and everything about him is facade (like you mention).
He told,me he never ever going to hurt my feelings and he is not even close like my ex-husbend or ex-boyfriend.
I trusted him a lot and he keep telling me he is the Guardian.
After one year I finally realized he is very selfish selfcentered narsdissist who is completely unavailable and Sex Addict to.
He left me speechless and heartbroken.
And I don’t know if I can trust any man again.
Selfish manipulator took full advantage of my trustworthy personality.
Very hard lesson which left me to leave to the rest of my life and not trust anymore man.
I know this planet has good people to.
Only I don’t know if anyone for me.
Thank you for listening.
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Dear Marta. Thank you very much for sharing your experiences. It can really be uncanny just how similar narcissists tend to be in their behavior. Which should make it really easy for us to recognize them once we get in touch with them. However, I still have difficulties in discerning whether a guy is having narcissist tendencies in his behavior towards me. Just because I am still willing to turn a blind eye to a lot of bullshit behavior out of a deep necessity to feel loved.
That is why, almost four years after having met the narcissist featuring in my blog, I am still single. I seem to be unable to form healthy relationships and in order to shield myself I decided on staying alone for a bit longer.
Thank you again for sharing. It feels good to know that I am not the only one struggling with these issues. I am sending over lots of good wishes to you 🙂
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Hello Katrin! I was searching for help with my relationaship when I cam across your blog. I read your blog „The Codependent’s Constant Urge to Apologize“ cause of my need to constantly apologize when i get into arguments with my wife. Is it possible for a woman to be a narcissist? Cause everything that you mention about the man in your blog is my wife. She constantly turns things around on me after i muster the courage to bring up the way she treats me. The minute she gets angry and starts bringing up things that I did wrong in the past I cower down and apologize for everything I’ve ever done. The minute she talks about leaving me I cower down and take full responsibility for being a piece of crap. I’m to the point now where I question whether the things she is doing to me are wrong or if I’m the terrible person she makes me out to be. I love her so much and I can’t imagine life without her. I do everytthing I can to let her know how much she means to me. I send her flowers at her work, I constatly tell her how good she looks, I try being a gentleman opening doors for her, and I try holding her hand and kissing her even though it doesn’t seem like she wants it. I know I’m a good man but I know I’m not perfect, I’ve made a lot of mistakes and said things that I shouldn’t have but I’ve always been true to her, she is my world. Do you have any advice for a man in the same situation?
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Hello Katrin. My name is Karin, and as similar as our names are spelled, our stories are very similar too. Was wondering if there is any way I can private message you?
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Hi Katrin,
I’ve just come across this blog, do you still come on here? Pretty sure my husband is a narc
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